Just as many people seem to be misinformed on the essence of being a southern gentleman as there are on being a southern belle. On the popular eHow website, the first item in the list on How to be a Real Southern Gentleman advises one to get the right clothes. Another author on this same site advises men to "dress the part." In fact, the list looks something like this...
- Get the right clothes
- Tip your hat to the ladies
- Talk with a drawl
- Race her to her chair
- Know how to appreciate a good meal
- Offer assistance
- Flirt shamelessly
Well, I declare! There you have it. No need to read further. Simply tip your hat to every lady in the restaurant while boltin' to your table, winkin' all the way. And that should do it.
A Southern Gentleman is not recognized by what he wears, or where he lives, or how many diplomas he's earned or what is sitting in his bank account. A Southern Gentleman is recognized for who he is, and who he is exudes from every pore of his being, including his character, his speech, his actions, his thoughtfulness, and his respect for all life, especially ladies. A southern gentleman has a reputation as one who can be counted on to do the right thing, the right way. Why? Because his mother taught him from the moment he was born to obey a higher calling.
To be an authentic Southern Gentleman, you must cultivate...
- Reverence for God and women,
- Strength of Character, including Integrity, Magnanimity, Chivalry,
- Respect for family, heritage and traditions
- Becoming an excellent provider and protector
- Being Responsible, Ethical, and Just
- Impeccable manners,
- Exuding warmth, kindness, and charm,
- And most of all, possessing a servant's heart.
Daniel Hindley, a Harvard-trained lawyer from Alabama who wrote on the subject in 1860, described the Southern Gentleman as having a natural dignity of manner and the utmost self-possession – that much coveted savoir faire, which causes a man to appear perfectly at home, whether it be in a hut or a palace. He is remarkably easy and natural, never haughty in appearance, or loud of voice – even when angry rarely raising his voice above the ordinary tone of gentlemanly conversation.Pin It